When faced with difficult decisions, whether that be business or personal, do you usually trust your logic or your intuition?
I was thinking about this other day when trying to make a conflicting business decision. If you asked me the question above, I would always respond with ‘trust your heart and you will always make the right decision’. But I wondered if this was really true with business.
I thought, don’t you have to be smart and more logical when making business decisions? Surely making intuitive decisions is the first step to failure. But what happens if your business is just you and you have a personal brand?
I was hoping there would be some sort of rule book for this kind of thing. Especially because I am a very indecisive person… like honestly, I can never choose what I want on a menu. I usually ask someone else to order the other option and then share.
Now first off, I want to say that whether you use your logic and write a pros and cons list or you use your intuition/feelings when making decisions, it is completely up to you. There isn’t really a right or wrong way.
At the end of the day, rely on what you trust and which option you can live with.
So going back to my latest decision making experience, I tried thinking about how I have made other life changing decisions. I realised that I am heavily influenced by my ‘gut’, my heart, my feelings.
If it doesn’t feel right with me then I usually end up dismissing it despite if it logically makes sense and could potentially evolve into prosperity.
I have been reading a few personal development books recently and noticed that ‘fear’ popped up in both of them. One said that fear is always going to be there and you should accept that but never let it contribute to your decisions. The other said that in order to be successful and change your current lifestyle you have to do what you fear. Which makes sense, if you want to get on a new level, you have to change what you are currently doing.
So when I started to find a pattern in my decision making skills I noticed that quite a few of my decisions was made through fear. Quitting a dance club, never signing up to a particular club/class, not auditioning for school shows, making up excuses to avoid certain events, quitting a summer job.
All of these decisions I made because I felt uncomfortable and anxious. Could that experiences have changed and lessened the anxiety I felt? Of course, but I never gave it chance because the fear was overpowering. If I decided to stick them out, I’m sure my life would be completely different, I could have been a ballerina who studied at the Royal Ballet School or became an older Jojo Siwa breaking out the dance moves. (I guess it’s a good thing that I landed here)
So this threw a bit of a spanner in the works. With my current dilemma, was I trusting my intuition or was I giving in to fear?
This is how you can tell.
Firstly find a quiet spot and just learn to sit in silence and quiet your mind. When you learn to listen to your intuition you have to pay attention to the way you feel. Try to describe the feeling and where it is located, so your head, heart, chest, stomach etc.
It would also be beneficial to write it down so you can refer to it in the future.
When you know your intuition is telling you NO
you will probably feel heavy, like a weight on your shoulders or in your stomach. It may feel sharp, slumpy, foggy, slow, dense. Almost like you have a black little raincloud inside of you. Or if you are Harry Potter fan, like a dementor sucking away your joy.
When you know your intuition is telling you YES
you will probably feel good, light, excited and inspired. By choosing this option you are following your joy and no matter what, you will undoubtedly give this 100% as opposed to something you don’t want to do.
So how can I tell if it’s fear talking?
The thing about fear is that it disguises itself as intuition because it is a feeling. However everyone feels fear at some point so you should know, but if you don’t then it feels jittery like butterflies, fast paced, and unsettling.
Remember that if you feel the need to make a decision in which you let a person, opportunity or experience go, then just know that this is allowing you to create the space for something better to come along.
Are you a logic or intuition decision maker? Has fear played a role in your decision making?
I would love to know!
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